Friday, February 24, 2012

Strong Women Mentors in My Life



I’ve been a professor since I was 23. My journey to these ivied halls of paradise was convoluted, with a wonderful band of conspirators serving mentor roles along the way. Somehow, in the first grade, I became involved with the Methodist Church in small-town Kentucky. The smells of Sunday school became intertwined with the smells of the first grade—crayons, new books, old musty books, and chalk intermingled with food and body odor—and these smells contributed to a sensual experience that continue to define my relationship with “things academic.”
The Methodist Church, as I experienced it in the 1950s and 1960s, was about personal exploration, not evangelism, or hell fire and brimstone. One of my first mentors, Rice Sutherland, through the Methodist Youth Fellowship, introduced me not only to the notion of foot washing, but also to the Passover Seder. Imagine an ignorant 13-year-old boy like me in a segregated southern town being exposed to a major Jewish tradition. This was part and parcel of a theme that began in the first grade and carried through my life—exploration of the world of ideas and beliefs for the sake of understanding.
Rice Sutherland also found money to support sending me to camp in the summers. At the time I was embarrassed about this and did not like the idea of being so poor as to need charity; it did not stop me from accepting it, however. The experiences at this camp were instructive and became part of another theme—getting out of my hometown and exploring the world.
If Mrs. Sutherland was instrumental in shaping the exploration of things spiritual and religious, Mrs. Rayburn, my school’s music teacher, offered me an opportunity that shaped my academic life. At 13 I was a big kid, fat really, but tall as well and not prone to things athletic. It caused a few fights. For some reason, when Mrs. Rayburn asked if I wanted to play the coronet in band, I really wanted to do it. My family had no money, but somehow my mother, another of my mentors, pushed the envelope, convincing my father (from whom I inherited my depression) that we should find the monthly rental fee needed for me to play this instrument. This was a turning point in my life.
In my early teens, I was very shy, preferring to spend time alone with a book to time with others. My father found this annoying and frequently yelled at me to “put the damn book down and go do something”.  With the acquisition of the coronet, I began to do things. My brother in law was a sergeant in the local Army reserve unit, and convinced his colleagues to let me play Taps on Memorial Day (Decoration Day it was called then) at the county court house. I was scared to death. In front of about 35 Army guys in the high school gym, I practiced one evening. It was awful; I missed every single note, and wanted to crawl into a hole, with my books, never to be seen again. No one laughed. No one yelled at me. One guy who had played trumpet and bugle before pulled me aside and taught me to use the valves on the coronet rather than rely exclusively on my armature. On Memorial Day, David Barnhill, an accomplished trumpet player, and I played Taps at the Webster County Court House in Dixon, Kentucky. Perfectly.
It was not the last time I was to dramatically fail in public, but the experience in the gym was the most dramatic failure I had had to that point, and the fact that I did not give up, took advice, and turned the experience around to a larger success, set me on a path. In high school, I forced myself to participate in debate and forensics, even though it scared me to death. Mrs. Hooks allowed me to travel with the team, and encouraged me even though I was not great. I owe her a lot.
I also competed in music even though both legs often shook so much I thought I’d fall down. Picture a fat kid with a Sousaphone strapped around his neck with violently shaking knees. In the eighth grade I was five feet seven inches tall and weighed 170 pounds. The Sousaphone player was graduating from high school. I was the guy most suited to carrying this very heavy old instrument. Mrs. Rayburn asked me to give up my coronet career in favor of the bass horn. I accepted, and in doing so set the stage for the rest of my life.
For reasons I have never determined, Mrs. Rayburn became more than my band teacher. When I was in junior high, she asked me to sing solos between the acts of high school plays. I accepted, and sang what I’m sure were painful to hear renditions of “Autumn Leaves” and such. Picture that same fat kid with knees shaking singing love songs. Usually, when I walked off the stage I had no memory of having sung—from the first look at the audience I “blacked out”. These were petrifying experiences, and ones that shaped me tremendously.
Thank you Mrs. Sutherland, Mrs. Rayburn, and Ms. Hooks and Mrs. Dorris. You taught me what strong women look like. I wonder where I'd be without you.

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